redreddread2 hindi lang ikaw nakakaranas niyan. Ako man ganyan. ^__^ Sarap ng ganyang pakiramdam no? Lalo na't parang kayo lang ang tao sa mundo kapag magkasama kayo. hehe

You should never struggle to find the perfect someone, but rather channel your efforts to make your relationship "perfect" for both of you. Those differences make your relationship full of activities.

Spend the next 5 years together then get back here and say that words again..hehehe...or maybe I haven't found the right one.

Depende lang naman yan eh. nasa inyo yan kung gusto niyong lumakas, o magcrumble down. Basta give chances, give each other true love, and behave. ^__^

Oo naman, I've found not a pretty face but a good wife. Obedient kasi ako ke Trini Lopez when he sang,[i] "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, get an ugly woman for your wife!"[/i] Kami rin opposite. Pero isang law ng Physics at molecular biology na "opposites attract" at patok maski sa Social Science. Yun yun na.

you know and you can feel it that shes gonna be the last. its the time where your soul dictates whats in your mind and yeah i really agree that opposite attracts.

Even though I'm already married, I still can't say that she's the right one or have I found the right one.

Tao lang ako. Let's see after about 5 years according to [b]codered[/b]. Even a year or two together, you still can't say that you've found the right one.

naku po wolfpaq ang marriage parang bond na yan sa isang company pero mas higit pa dun. tsk tsk hindi pa naman easy magfile ng annulment sa pinas.

[quote=kwix]Oo naman, I've found not a pretty face but a good wife. Obedient kasi ako ke Trini Lopez when he sang,[i] "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, get an ugly woman for your wife!"[/i] ...Kami rin opposite. [/quote]

that's a good way of saying you're handsome.. hahaha.. :D

@topic:
sarap talaga ng feeling pag in love no? parang everything's perfect.. but after some time, it slowly falls apart.. but if your love is true, you'll find a way to endure and be strong.. ;)

sa tagal n namin ng gf ko feeling ko it slowly falls apart na,may ups and down,i just tried my best na hindi mawala.pero minsan dami temptation,pati ang galing sumakto lagi nasa malayo gf ko.hayz!

[quote=codered]Spend the next 5 years together then get back here and say that words again..hehehe...or maybe I haven't found the right one.[/quote]

sorry man, we've been together for almost ten years already hehe. that's why like i said i've found my last one.

[quote=solmyr]redreddread2 hindi lang ikaw nakakaranas niyan. Ako man ganyan. ^__^ Sarap ng ganyang pakiramdam no? Lalo na't parang kayo lang ang tao sa mundo kapag magkasama kayo. hehe[/quote]

yep, very much

[quote=kwix]Oo naman, I've found not a pretty face but a good wife. Obedient kasi ako ke Trini Lopez when he sang,[i] "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, get an ugly woman for your wife!"[/i] Kami rin opposite. Pero isang law ng Physics at molecular biology na "opposites attract" at patok maski sa Social Science. Yun yun na.[/quote]

got that right. its really true when we say opposites atrract and like poles repel. parang magnet

I'm just wondering.. How can you say that she is not the right one? What was the reason for the marriage? It's hard to say by words if she/he nor she/he is the right one, you just feel it..
In a boyfriend girlfriend relationship, it's understandable to think that maybe there's a better person out there than what you have right now.But for two people binded by marriage, is different..How does a search for a better someone ends?
In my case, I have a serious relationship for 4 years, I stopped the thought of having someone else, not even entertaining suitors..But on his side, I let him know that I'm not closing the fact that she might be looking out for a better someone. I'm happy with what I have right now and I'm sure he is also.

Finding the right one maybe difficult if searched by the naked eye, let your heart search for that someone.

isa na lang kulang, game over ka na! lol!

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[quote=alek23]sa tagal n namin ng gf ko feeling ko it slowly falls apart na,may ups and down,i just tried my best na hindi mawala.pero minsan dami temptation,pati ang galing sumakto lagi nasa malayo gf ko.hayz![/quote]

dyan mo malalaman kung mahal mo talaga gf mo. by facing temptation and walking away.

[quote=excon]isa na lang kulang, game over ka na! lol!

[img]http://img232.imageshack.us/img232/5118/gameoverlf4.jpg[/img]
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lol i'm looking forward to it hehe oras na para gumawa ng maraming junior na tuturuan kong maging pinoyspy

ok lang magkaroon ng madaming junior basta kaya mong buhayin. ilang trophy ba ang balak mo buddy redreddread2??

nga pala, sundin mo sinabi ni GMA, birth spacing daw!

[quote=excon]ok lang magkaroon ng madaming junior basta kaya mong buhayin. ilang trophy ba ang balak mo buddy redreddread2??

nga pala, sundin mo sinabi ni GMA, birth spacing daw![/quote]

di ko pa alam eh hehe basta equally spaced at two years each para maayos paglaki.

hmm... as for me.. I found the right one then he left me after a couple of weeks then he's mine again. The perfect couple aren't perfect match sometimes.

Oh yeah. And now we have a big problem and I think he will repeat history. Cuz' I think he is giving up even without (or a little) a fight. I am not perfect. I have my own flaws . In fact you know I am on the psychotic side (not the type that kills people, but potential; hereditary). And I am not making this as an excuse. It's just that, there are somethings that I can't control, and I am trying my best to reach his expectations but I can't reach his expectations. And I do not want to live my life solely reaching expectations of other people. But I am trying.....

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I smell a catfight brewing!

Well let's get this thing straight the two of you (obviously you know who you are). The first four years of a relationship the toughest years you can ever experience. There's pain, jealousy, fear, pride, loathing, hurting, and in my case slapping, pinching, and even hair pullling. The fires of single blessedness are still burning inside the two of you and would stay that way until the two of you learn to evolve and grow within the relationship you're in. Personalities will always clash there would always be this thing we call "sumbatan" because its the truth. Trust would always be an issue. But then here comes the tricky part. The TWO of you would have to fight for your time together. Take note the [b]TWO[/b] of you. Relationships are not one sided affairs. Both parties have an obligation towards one another. It's a time for feeling each other, checking to see if it could you could add another year or not. It's a time for growing together in the relationship. If you seriously want to last so long then you must fight for it tooth and nail.

Two years is not a long time. A lot can happen in two years. So don't say the time you've spent together is long enough to find out that it's wrong or it's right. By the time you guys reach your fourth year (if you're lucky enough) then that would be the time wherein the two of you would decide whther to stay together and prosper or to just get up wish each other well and say goodbye.

You could hang in there or choose to let go. In the end after all the advice, after all the word said and the deeds done, the rest, the "choice" would fall in your hands.

you chose to leave your family with your own reasons don't pin that down on me. and with regards to the jokes, you told me na i-lugar, i-timing. It was quite insulting when I first hear that but I did not take it that way. I was also expecting you would do what you said to be consistent. I don't know. Let's just cool off (not break up)... I don't know where this is leading.

I don’t know what happened and I don’t want to know anything else.
As your friend, I want both of you to be happy and prevent you from any harm and hurt.
It’s not good for both of you to talk about your personal relationship in front of the whole world, why? Because both of you may end up in a not good situation. People will judge you for what they have read and see. If you want your relationship to work, always leave a space for conversation. A good communication and understanding are some of the keys of a good relationship. Open one-self to each other. Speak out your strengths and weaknesses. It is also good to know each others beliefs. Remember, good communication and understanding one another are important, ok?!

Another thing, act as best friend and not as a lovers, why? “Break-up” is not recognized by best friends. Such a word is not in the vocabulary of friendship. Also, avoid “sumbatan”, you MUST accept ones past, weaknesses, mistakes, habits, lifestyles and behavior. Pride is also not good in a relationship; it is always the cause or the source of break ups. Both of you must learn to moderate your pride. Sometimes you need to step down to understand the things that are not in your level. These may sound easy to be done but as long as you have these, it is not.

Lastly, forgive and learn. Move on and love.

*** I just hope you understand what I’m trying to share. Remember, I’m not good in this language.

*** Both of you violated one of our rules, the “topic hijacking”. :)

oops... sorry... it just went out out of emotions. And I want also to have some advices. sorry....

Wow so much emotions running around. Pwede ba magtagalog ako dito? Nose-bleed na kasi ako eh. Seryoso.

Anyway, here's my point. Una pa lang alam ko na ang spark ni IWM at SC. Una pa lang alam ko ng may something na ikatutuwa ng lahat. Kaya kung iisipin mong mabuti, bakit sasayangin ang MAGANDANG pagsasama dahil sa EGO, FRIENDSHIP, FLAWS, SHORTCOMINGS, or Whatever reason pa yan. Look at the bright side of your life. Both of you are PROFESIONALS. Both of you are expert at the same field. Both of you are something that brings back life to blogging. And defenitely, pareho kayong may LOVE. Hell fights. Away bata lang yan. Kahit matindi pinagmulan niyan, away bata pa rin yan! Eh ano kung may nasaktan? Eh ano kung may naisagawan? Eh ano kung may sacrifices? Bakit di niyo ba nakikita ang bunga? So forget about EVERYTHING! Restart! Reboot! Virus scan niyo sarili niyo! Quarantine ang ENVY, JELOUSY, at ang PRIDE! Delete and SAD emotions at ang mga bangayan.

Kaya kung ako sa inyo, umayos kayo, okay? Tanda niyo na ah! ^__^ hehe

This is funny haha! Look you two, don't try to air your dirty laundry over the net. People are already beginning to notice.

If you want to argue, do it in front of each other. Not in front of other people.

If you guys want to leave the relationship, then leave. It's as simple as that, no ifs no buts. If you want to stay together then fight for it.

the title of this blog should be "Have you found the right one.. to fight?" *haha! Joke! just want to cool this down.

I have nothing against their thing. I respect them both and it's a bold thing to do this on air (or net or whatever). At least we can see reality. That not all relationships are perfect. Not everything is at place. But lessons are learned to make things... Almost PERFECT.

Thanks for laughing [b]redreddread2[/b], you're really therapeutic. Why the hell did you start this topic anyway if you view something like this as funny? We can flaunt as much flaws in our relationship as we want. This is one of the reasons why our names and faces are hidden in the first place.

Remember Johnray when he sought for advice from us? His case was worse than ours and nobody saw it as funny. Man, I hope you are taking your relationship with your girlfriend or wife seriously.

Hep Hep! RedAlert Mods! Ayaw natin ng away! Kung di kayo tumigil tatawag ako ng TANOD!

There are no mods in blogs. It's the blogger's call.

Hehe eh... Pasensiya naman SD. ^__^

Basta walang away ah!

[quote=IWM]Thanks for laughing [b]redreddread2[/b], you're really therapeutic. Why the hell did you start this topic anyway if you view something like this as funny? We can flaunt as much flaws in our relationship as we want. This is one of the reasons why our names and faces are hidden in the first place.

Remember Johnray when he sought for advice from us? His case was worse than ours and nobody saw it as funny. Man, I hope you are taking your relationship with your girlfriend or wife seriously.[/quote]

Tell me why should I not?

If you take your love so seriously then you should have solved your problems ages ago. The thing is you two don't take it seriously. You act like two kids fighting over a teddy bear. You pull on both its arms until they rip off. That's what you two are doing. Don't you realize that? You should have read what I wrote earlier and taken it to heart. But I guess you two didn't. The way I see it, the two of you might just be in love with the word LOVE and it's concept.

If you really, seriously wanted to solve this problem of yours, you should not have replied to your girl's post and instead should have gone to her house no matter how late it is or how far she lives from you, fixed your situation and solved your arguments. But no you did not. Let me tell you this if you were serious with her you should have not given up in solving whatever it is that's bugging the two of you. My girl and I used to fight and our fights are usually physical, but I never gave up and so did she. We NEVER ended the day fighting. We ALWAYS made sure that when nightfall comes we have solved our problems and are happy again.

Oh and by the way, I wrote this blog to tell all of you how much I love my girl and intend to be with her. I wrote this blog to ask all of you if you have the same treasure as I have. We've been together like I said for almost ten years and indeed we both take our relationship seriously. That's why we've lasted this long.

This blog was not written to pick fights nor was it written for the purpose of airing dirty laundry. You've already made certain violations as I've read so don't give me this kind of silly reason-"We can flaunt as much flaws in our relationship as we want. This is one of the reasons why our names and faces are hidden in the first place."-this is not the kind of reason i would expect from people like you. At least your girl apologized to the other spies here for doing what she did. Have you?

Word of advice, read my post. The one I specifically aimed at the both of you. Read it, re-read it, and re-read it some more. Then take it to heart. If you really care for her then go to her and solve your problems. Ok?

redreddread2, you don't know what things we did to solve our problems before posting them here. So you can't act like all-knowledgeable about what happened between the two of us. I could have accepted your comments if they were objective but you seem to know everything about us, which obviously you don't.

[i]"should have gone to her house no matter how late it is or how far she lives from you, fixed your situation and solved your arguments. But no you did not."[/i] What makes you think I didn't?

[i]"this is not the kind of reason i would expect from people like you. "[/i] Why not? Isn't this an open discussion and we are entitled to our own opinion? Besides, what I said was true. We COULD tell everybody our "dirty laundries", as you would say, as this topic asks the readers if we have found the right one. Does that only mean telling everybody the good side of a relationship?

This is why I am offended by your seemingly ridiculed remarks towards my statements. If you have found the right one for you, then congratulations. But you could not go around forums like this, starting a topic, and laughing at someone's replies if they didn't meet your standards. In case you think I hijacked your thread, this is still yours. I am still within the topic. So what violations are you talking about?

[quote=Hawota]naku po wolfpaq ang marriage parang bond na yan sa isang company pero mas higit pa dun. tsk tsk hindi pa naman easy magfile ng annulment sa pinas.[/quote]

I'm not yet concluding that I've found the right one that's all. Mahirap nang magsalita ng patapos tapos maghihiwalay rin pala kalaunan. OR there is actually a possibility na magkakahiwalay (wag sanang mangyari sa akin) pero siya parin yung the right one.. ang gulo.. nalilito ako...

[quote=IWM]redreddread2, you don't know what things we did to solve our problems before posting them here. So you can't act like all-knowledgeable about what happened between the two of us. I could have accepted your comments if they were objective but you seem to know everything about us, which obviously you don't.

[i]"should have gone to her house no matter how late it is or how far she lives from you, fixed your situation and solved your arguments. But no you did not."[/i] What makes you think I didn't?

[i]"this is not the kind of reason i would expect from people like you. "[/i] Why not? Isn't this an open discussion and we are entitled to our own opinion? Besides, what I said was true. We COULD tell everybody our "dirty laundries", as you would say, as this topic asks the readers if we have found the right one. Does that only mean telling everybody the good side of a relationship?

This is why I am offended by your seemingly ridiculed remarks towards my statements. If you have found the right one for you, then congratulations. But you could not go around forums like this, starting a topic, and laughing at someone's replies if they didn't meet your standards. In case you think I hijacked your thread, this is still yours. I am still within the topic. So what violations are you talking about?[/quote]

[i]"this is not the kind of reason i would expect from people like you. "[/i] Why not? Isn't this an open discussion and we are entitled to our own opinion? Besides, what I said was true. We COULD tell everybody our "dirty laundries", as you would say, as this topic asks the readers if we have found the right one. Does that only mean telling everybody the good side of a relationship?

First and foremost what kind of opinion do you have when what I read is you arguing with your girl? Yes this is an open discussion, but it is NOT a boxing ring. If you want to fight with your girl create a blog, a forum, or whatever place you can create and fight there. And all of us reading would stand back and be your audience if that's what you like.

Now I know why the two of you keep on fighting. Try reading my posts, if you get offended sorry but then the truth hurts ain't it? You never seem to listen, you don't even try to understand my posts here.

Again I repeat, this blog was written neither to pick fights nor was it written as a place for a couple to fight in. If you want to pick a fight with your girl it's up to you but don't you think [b]I[/b] got offended by the two of you fighting inside the blog I wrote? If you have the decency to respect the author of this blog then you would choose to not reply to your girl's posts out of respect for ME. Use your common sense man. The topic was "if you've found the RIGHT one" and not "if you've been fighting with someone?" And I never wrote this as a place for two people to argue in.

*** Both of you violated one of our rules, the “topic hijacking”.-need I say more?

If you think I offended you then you should have thought whether or not you will be offending me. No wonder you and your girl never stop fighting. You never listen. You always want to be proven right. You always want to have the last word. Fine by me. But remember, you have to GIVE RESPECT to EARN RESPECT. And please have the DECENCY to think first if you would be offending someone before you do something. I wrote this blog and I take care of it.

At least your girl had the decency to apologize for the mistake she made. I give credit to her for that at the very least.

[b][i]"If you want to fight with your girl create a blog, a forum, or whatever place you can create and fight there."[/i][/b] If you read my reply to her, which I've already deleted, it is obviously not fighting. Did you even read it? I was trying to make everything between us better because everything I did seemed to fail. Apology to her and expressing my sincerity were clearly what I stated in my previous reply. As I said, you don't know what things I already did to try to resolve this issue. As to why she brought it up here, I don't know.

[b][i]"No wonder you and your girl never stop fighting. You never listen. You always want to be proven right. You always want to have the last word."[/i][/b] There you go again man. Being the all-knowledgeable guy in this thread. What made you say that? Based on how I reply to your comments? [i]"And please have the DECENCY to think first if you would be offending someone before you do something."[/i] Speak for yourself.

As for us, every thing's well now between us. I guess telling her I love her and I'm sorry in front of you guys really helped. Although it didn't help for redreddread2.

Why, isn't it the truth? Like I said, truth hurts doesn't it?

My knowledge is based on experience. And nothing teaches a person more than experience. No books, no schools, no subjects can take the place of it. I've been through everything you've been through with my girl and much worse.

Believe me I read your posts and its nothing more than arguing. The two of you were doing the "he said, she said" bit. If that's not arguing I don't know what is.

I already said "I smell a catfight!" I already said "This is funny haha!Look you two don't try to air your dirty laundry..." Wasn't that enough to tell you that the author was noticing something wrong with your posts. You deleted your posts, when? When I noticed that you two were arguing already? Like I said again, you should not have posted in the first place if you wanted to pick a fight with your girl. You two started this whole bit you know. With no respect to the author so excuse me if I got offended. It's my right. Just like you said you have a right to air your dirty laundry, it's my right to get offended by it. Just like what SD said, "it's the author's call."

Oh well, just go in with your life and with yourself, have fun with her. If everything's ok with the two of you that's fine with me.

Just be decent enough to respect other people's rights to police their blogs.

Why, isn't it the truth? Like I said, truth hurts doesn't it?

My knowledge is based on experience. And nothing teaches a person more than experience. No books, no schools, no subjects can take the place of it. I've been through everything you've been through with my girl and much worse.

Believe me I read your posts and its nothing more than arguing. The two of you were doing the "he said, she said" bit. If that's not arguing I don't know what is.

I already said "I smell a catfight!" I already said "This is funny haha!Look you two don't try to air your dirty laundry..." Wasn't that enough to tell you that the author was noticing something wrong with your posts. You deleted your posts, when? When I noticed that you two were arguing already? Like I said again, you should not have posted in the first place if you wanted to pick a fight with your girl. You two started this whole bit you know. With no respect to the author so excuse me if I got offended. It's my right. Just like you said you have a right to air your dirty laundry, it's my right to get offended by it. Just like what SD said, "it's the author's call."

Oh well, just go on with your life and with yourself, have fun with her. If everything's ok with the two of you that's fine with me.

Just be decent enough to respect other people's rights to police their blogs.

This argument is over.

I apologize for taking this discussion out of hand. This never had to go this far. To get back to topic,

"have you found the right one?"

Yes, I have found the right one. It will only be a matter of making the relationship perfect for us. Just like what I stated before. [i]"You should never struggle to find the perfect someone, but rather channel your efforts to make your relationship "perfect" for both of you. Those differences make your relationship full of activities."[/i]

It was good arguing/discussing with you. At least for me.

[quote=redreddread2][quote=codered]Spend the next 5 years together then get back here and say that words again..hehehe...or maybe I haven't found the right one.[/quote]

sorry man, we've been together for almost ten years already hehe. that's why like i said i've found my last one.[/quote]

Still you can never tell...I had a relationship with a girl who gave up her 10 year relationship with her bf. In the end, they still end up together. Not because they love each other but because both families insist that they should be together. Sad

Codered I bet they are chinese. Life is not like a Wheel/tire. That sometimes your on top or bottom. It does not go that way. I may say life (in this case, loving) is like going to a market with P4,000 in your pocket. You have to find the best quality, reasonable price, and defenitely worth buying. It may take you a while, you can go back and search again, you can test the product first, you may end up sacrificing quality over price or vise versa. But as you go the cashier, you have a satisfaction gurantee face, picking up your groceries and putting it in your home. For me, that is loving. (But not all love has it's price tag.)

[quote=IWM]I apologize for taking this discussion out of hand. This never had to go this far. To get back to topic,

"have you found the right one?"

Yes, I have found the right one. It will only be a matter of making the relationship perfect for us. Just like what I stated before. [i]"You should never struggle to find the perfect someone, but rather channel your efforts to make your relationship "perfect" for both of you. Those differences make your relationship full of activities."[/i]

It was good arguing/discussing with you. At least for me.[/quote]

Hey it was good for me too man.

My best wishes to the both of you.

Have fun you two.

[quote=codered][quote=redreddread2][quote=codered]Spend the next 5 years together then get back here and say that words again..hehehe...or maybe I haven't found the right one.[/quote]

sorry man, we've been together for almost ten years already hehe. that's why like i said i've found my last one.[/quote]

Still you can never tell...I had a relationship with a girl who gave up her 10 year relationship with her bf. In the end, they still end up together. Not because they love each other but because both families insist that they should be together. Sad

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I know what you mean. It's tough but we all get over heartache and sadness don't we?

,,,whew.. i thought it will blown out of proportion na.. about the topic, we'd been in huge fights during our 15 years of relationship... mostly with her faults & flaws but i'd never laid a hand on her... not even in my dreams... and just like you, i'd never found the right one but i certainly found my "LAST ONE".

i still believe that a "perfect relationship" were made up of "imperfect couple"

Padagdag lang. Hindi ako nagastart ng away or what. I am just speaking out my views. Though we aired our fights here, it is for a good reason. I know that we have our own brains..etc. But we are also not perfect. With all of you not really knowing our demographics and faces, we feel no inhibitions in sharing our disputes. I was posting our arguments not for your own pleasure but for all of you to try and help us solve and make compromises. We had done everything we can to solve and make compromises, communicating and our own share of sacrifices but nothing seems to be working. By just talking here and presenting our case we seek your advice, not by hear say, but through our own mouths (keyboard? fingertips?) without any dagdag bawas.

... it always shreding my heart whenever I heard a relationship broken apart... it's just that i'm a jolly person who doesn't want a sad ending or a sentimental guy whose easily carried out by those things... i don't know exactly what had happened here... i just can't control myself to be sad... i'm just praying that they can still patched-up those differences... and live happily ever after... hoping & praying...

Though bad things happen... Not all bad things have bad outcomes. Many also have a happy ending. Some surprises is life may not be wonderfully packaged. Just think about that deosh. Just think that maybe they just need exactly that to have a better future.